Update/ Testimony!

I'mmmm backkk!!! I can't believe I've stayed away for so long, but nevertheless I'm back!! So much has happened that I don't know where to start. Let me get this out of the way first... Yes! I am still abstinent/saving sex for marriage. I have not had any form of sex in 4 years! To God be all the glory... He is surely a keeper.. there is no way I can take any credit for that. Testimony time: I went through what I now see was a huge test/lesson. I had to get rid of all of the residue that was left from living a selfish/worthless life... I see now that I still had a huge lust problem. I am super excited that God has released me to speak on this because I know it means I've passed. Okay so in the past 3 years I was still low key trying to take matters in my own hands. I was attempting to rush to the alter or get married assuming that would solve all of my problems... So I was entertaining men who were Christian guys, but the relationship was not God ordained... What I mean by that is I was more seeking to solve my fleshly desires than I was to bring glory to our Father. I see now that I wanted the wedding, dress, and happily ever after more that I wanted a real relationship with Jesus, and as backwards as that sounds it's the truth. One thing I can say though is I never stopped praying, and as much as It hurt me to hear the answers God gave me... He never failed me in revealing the truth. So ladies and gentlemen if you are unsure about any relationship pray earnestly, and God will reveal the truth to you.... I was in one relationship in particular with a pastor whom I still have nothing bad to say about... I take credit for everything going south... because if I would've stayed hidden I could have prevented a lot of what happened. I realize also that I didn't go through that experience just for me, and that I am going to help a lot of my brothers and sisters who are going through similar situations even now as I type this. So what have I learned: 1. Single sisters we must stay hidden in Christ. We've got to stay in our word and pray without ceasing. If we feed our Spirit man we'll starve the flesh... so when you want to pick up the phone or Facebook a guy go to The Word first, pray about it first. The man God has for you won't miss you. There is nothing you can do to interrupt the plans God has for you. Focus on building a firm foundation that will be able to with stand a marriage. 2. In every situation seek Godly counsel. Before you even get your feelings involved go to someone whom you can trust, that is Holy Spirit filled, and please once you get the advice do exactly as they say I don't care how bad you want a yes... if the say no it's no. Trust me... you'll thank me later for that one. 3. Last but not least, get use to saying No! the bible says, "let your ye be ye, and your nah be nah. I learned from a friend that you have to make a list of non negotiables... this is a list of things that you will not compromise on. so if a man/woman enters your life, and they're not in alignment with what you wrote down you know that this person is not the one. I pray that this post has blessed someone... Lord willing I plan on posting alot more here... If you have any questions or just need prayer feel free to email me at tairaburks@gmail.com. much love, Taira :)